All Children Are Different!

If you look around at families you know, it is likely that the children are all different, with different looks and natures than their brothers and sisters. Quite often you will notice a pattern according to their position in the family. The first-born may be more thoughtful and reserved, the middle child is quite different, whilst the youngest maybe extravert, fearless and adventurous.
At one time my husband decided he would run a riding stable and pony trekking center. The foster children had returned to their mother who had then remarried so we only had 3 children again. The children thrived with the fresh air and freedom but my youngest daughter then 4 was totally fearless and if someone would sit her on any of the horses or ponies she would happily ride across the field Thelwell style.
On another occasion, not be outdone by the older boys she climbed scaffolding on the adjacent block of flats by swinging up to the next railing, and climbed up and up, but couldn't get down as her legs wouldn't reach the rungs; she had to be swiftly rescued by my husband. She would climb anywhere and everywhere completely fearless. Whereas my older daughter was much more fearful of the horses and my son wouldn't go near them and was much happier on his bike. This illustrates how different children can be.
Different dynamics within the family group can also affect the characteristics of your children. For example, you may be stricter with your first child as you are settling into parenthood, whereas, later you may be more relaxed. The presence of other children or whether you have more or less time to spend with them can make a difference too. Plus of course, all have their own traits and there is the age-old question of, nature or nurture. Your main job as a parent is to develop a child's own strengths and guide them towards being the best they can be and to become happy healthy adults responsible for their own actions.
It would be a boring world if we were all the same, imagine if we all thought the same and acted in the same way. We would all be searching for the same jobs. You will soon learn to understand your little ones and know how they will react. Embrace their differences and enjoy their different characters, help them develop in their own way and become members of a diverse society.
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